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For the people pleaser, perfectionist, overachiever ready to trade hustling to prove herself for more peace, confidence and calm

Because let’s be honest, all that caring what other people think, anxious attachment and living a life that looks good on paper but leaves you feeling “meh” gets really exhausting.

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Your simple plan to stop living to please.

Whether you’re on day 1 or 1000 of your recovering “good girl” era, the no brainer place to start is my mini-course, “Debunking the Need to Please”.

Every day for the next 6 days, I’ll drop a juicy email in your inbox with some of my biggest aha’s, some of the practices that have helped me and the important reminders, specifically for the overachiever type, to help you really understand what it’s going to take to tackle that people pleasing and stop caring so much what other people think. The best part, it’s totally free.

Looking for something specific?

Let’s just say I have a lot of thoughts about the mindset, habits and tools that help former people pleasers and perfectionists fast track to a more confident, secure, fulfilled version of themselves. You can check them all out below or let me help you find what you’re looking for…

What are your priorities right now?

The promise was that this wording shift would kick you into high gear on the things that are important in your life and make you face clearly, the things that might be distracting you.

Samantha Pillsbury 5/25/22 Samantha Pillsbury 5/25/22

The stigma of solo

While solo travel can help you get comfortable being alone, its most powerful benefit is learning to be comfortable with being challenged. And in this way, my philosophy toward solo travel and dating converge.

Samantha Pillsbury 4/21/22 Samantha Pillsbury 4/21/22

How can I be sure he’s right for me? Here’s why it shouldn’t matter

How do you decide if a relationship is right for you? When you are starting to get to know somebody, how can you be sure that they’re the right fit? These are common questions asked by those dating but this question has a problematic understanding of the components of a good relationship. I’m breaking down why you should stop caring about being sure.

Samantha Pillsbury 2/11/22 Samantha Pillsbury 2/11/22

Mindfulness: how to find more happiness and control in life

Dating is emotional. Sometimes we react to things that trigger us in ways that we aren’t the proudest of. Finding ways to be mindful, through regular practices or using tools in the moment, is a great way to increase that space between the trigger and the response so we can make better decisions.

Samantha Pillsbury 2/9/22 Samantha Pillsbury 2/9/22

To the woman who feels like love might not be in the cards for her...

I've asked myself, "Are my standards too high?" and "Did they just get lucky?" I've compared myself to friends, wondering what was different about them that maybe I should strive more to be. I wondered if maybe it was my tactics…

Samantha Pillsbury 2/6/22 Samantha Pillsbury 2/6/22

Taking a break from dating? You need to read this.

It's natural to sometimes take a break from your dating life. But some breaks are more helpful than others. Click to read a some dating advice for single women on the types of dating breaks and how to make sure you're getting the most out of your time away from dating.

Samantha Pillsbury 1/23/22 Samantha Pillsbury 1/23/22

On feeling negative - change isn’t always easy.

Just because we are striving to improve doesn’t mean that everything in our lives is magically better and we know how to make negative thoughts disappear. I took a good look at the harder parts and behind-the-scenes at this stage of my journey.

Samantha Pillsbury 1/17/22 Samantha Pillsbury 1/17/22

My top books for self-development

Whether or not you’re into self help books, there are always books out there that can give you new perspective and force you learn something about yourself. I collected a list of my favorites for self-development, I wanted to share with you…

Samantha Pillsbury 12/8/21 Samantha Pillsbury 12/8/21

8 Things I've Learned about Personal Growth

Every piece of work we do to understand our mind and have a healthier relationship with ourselves is building our habits for the future. But as I have been spending more energy on this task, one of the first things I struggled to wrap my head around was "What does growth even look like?"

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WHAT OTHER GIRLIES SAY

“Samantha was instrumental in helping me change my thoughts about myself and my self-worth. These are techniques that I'll be using for a long, long time!”